Are You in Denial & Delusion in Recovery

Denial & Delusion Blog

 

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de·ni·al
[dih- nahy- uhl]

NOUN
1.
an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc., is false: Despite his denials, we knew he had taken the purse. The politician issued a denial of his opponent’s charges.
2.
refusal to believe a doctrine, theory, or the like.
3.
disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing.
4.
the refusal to satisfy a claim, request, desire, etc., or the refusal of a person making it.
5.
refusal to recognize or acknowledge; a disowning or disavowal: the traitor’s denial of his country; Peter’s denial of Christ.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

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You have more Courage than you know in Recovery & Life

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cour·age
[ kur-ij, kuhr-]
NOUN
1. the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.
2. Obsolete. the heart as the source of emotion.
3. have the courage of one’s convictions to act in accordance with one’s beliefs, especially in spite of criticism.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

Courage

I don’t know about you, but when I used to hear the word Courage, the first image that would come to mind was soldiers on the front line. You could not get more courage than that. Risking their lives to fight an enemy, to defend their country.

The same applies to any other emergency service personnel who puts their life and well being on the line to protect other people. Wow

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How being in control is possible in Recovery

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con·trol
[k uhn- trohl]
VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [CON·TROLLED, CON·TROL·LING.]
1. to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command: The car is difficult to control at high speeds. That zone is controlled by enemy troops.
2. to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one’s emotions.
3. to test or verify (a scientific experiment) by a parallel experiment or other standards of comparison.
4. to eliminate or prevent the flourishing or spread of: to control a forest fire.
5. Obsolete. to check or regulate (transactions), originally by means of a duplicate register.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

How being in control is possible in recovery

When I was drinking, I was a control freak!!! Yes at the time if someone had told me that I would have got very angry, me a control freak. In hindsight now, and it did take a few years in recovery to admit this, I had to be nothing but a control freak. When you try to control the uncontrollable, what else are you going to be? I thought I was in control of my drinking, whereas in reality, my drinking was in control of me.

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You Now have the gift of Choice In Recovery

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choice
[chois]
NOUN
1. an act or instance of choosing; selection: Her choice of a computer was made after months of research. His parents were not happy with his choice of friends.
2. the right, power, or opportunity to choose; option: The child had no choice about going to school.
3. the person or thing has chosen or eligible to be chosen: This book is my choice. He is one of many choices for the award.
4. an alternative: There is another choice.
5. an abundance or variety from which to choose: a wide choice of candidates.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog on chemical dependency, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

Choice

“Choice is a gift, Choice is an immense power that we all have been given freely”.

The greatest awareness I ever got in my early recovery was that I was suddenly free from the burden of addiction. I literally was a slave to alcohol, it controlled me 24/7, like a bull with a nose ring it leads me on a very dangerous journey. It occupied my thoughts, it suppressed my feelings and it was killing my body & soul.

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You can Change in Recovery

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change
[cheynj]

VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [CHANGED, CHANG·ING.]
1 .to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: to change one’s name; to change one’s opinion; to change the course of history.
2. to transform or convert (usually followed by into): The witch changed the prince into a toad.
3. to substitute another or others for; exchange for something else, usually of the same kind: She changed her shoes when she got home from the office.
4. to give and take reciprocally; interchange: to change places with someone.
5. to transfer from one (conveyance) to another: You’ll have to change planes in Chicago.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

Change

Change in recovery is no different from any other types of changes in life. As humans we are growth seeking being, thus we are in a permanent state of change, even if we are unaware of it. Our bodies are changing daily, our minds are changing all the time, our moods change in line with our thoughts and feelings. We are ever evolving & never stand still, nor does life, nor does the Universe.

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How Chemical Dependency can affect You?

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Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog on Change, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

How Chemical Dependency can affect You?

Chemical Dependency is very hard to explain properly in the context of a blog as I could be writing all night, and you reading all night. If you do want further information on Chemical Dependency, I suggest you Google it re are a few links you can look at at the bottom of the page.

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“Character Defects” How many do you have?

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Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

Character Defects How many do you have?

Character Defects are negative ways we think, feel and behave. Whenever I talk about character defects, the first reaction I get is “There is nothing wrong with me!!”, “How dare you, I’m not broken!!!“. Really everyone has character defects or flaws both in and not in addiction and most people function well enough with them, but do you want them?

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Have you suffered from loss in the “emotional roller coaster” of recovery?

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be·reave·ment
[bih- reev-m uhnt]

NOUN
1.
a period of mourning after a loss, especially after the death of a loved one: The widow had many visitors during her bereavement.
2.
a state of intense grief, as after the loss of a loved one; desolation.
3.
deprivation or loss by force (usually fol. by of): The hurricane left a trail of bereavement of ordinary people.

Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

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Are You playing the “blame game” in Recovery

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blame
[bleym]

VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [BLAMED, BLAM·ING.]

1.to hold responsible; find fault with; censure: I don’t blame you for leaving him.

2.to place the responsibility for (a fault, error, etc.) (usually followed by on): I blame the accident on her.

3.Informal. blast; damn (used as a mild curse): Blame the rotten luck.

NOUN

4.an act of attributing fault; censure; reproof: The judge said he found nothing to justify blame in the accident.

5.responsibility for anything deserving of censure: We must all share the blame for this deplorable condition.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

Are You playing the “blame game” in Recovery

 

 

 

When I was in active addiction, I was full of blame.

It was everyone else’s fault, for everything.

My life wasn’t working due to my drinking, but I never blamed the drink for that.

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Change Your “Core beliefs”, change your recovery

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Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, Belief you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:

I’ve decided to cover Core Beliefs as part and apart from beliefs. I am a true believer that Recovery & Life are about moving forward, not dwelling on the past or trying to find out the Why’s & How’s of my life to date. However, Core Beliefs are important to address as they can unlock a lot of cognitive distortions (unhelpful thought patterns) that have become entrenched in us from an early age. This blog is from a lecture I present where I work:

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