Relapse prevention (RP) is a cognitive-behavioral approach to relapse with the goal of identifying and preventing high-risk situations such as substance abuse, obsessive-compulsive behavior, sexual offending, obesity, and depression. It is an important component in the treatment process for alcoholism or alcohol dependence.(Wikipedia)
Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:
LOOK AT WHAT IS RELAPSE & RELAPSE PREVENTION
-A Brief Slip
-Backslide in Motivation – “loss of interest in recovery, disheartened, complacent”
-One Off Situation, Initially
-Happens at a Subconscious Level on many occasions & is NOT premeditated or planned.
-A Reinstatement of former unhealthy behaviors: “e.g. Staying in bed all day, poor self-care, isolation”
-A collapse in motivation: “e.g. Not wanting to attend aftercare or meetings”
-Return to active addiction: “e.g. drinking, using or gambling again”
-A Premeditated Process: e.g.” Once the negative signs are noticed and action is taken, a relapse
can be stopped”
-A Therapeutic Process for interrupting the Behaviours, Beliefs & Negative Self Talk, that lead to a resumption of prior negative patterns.
-Daily maintenance of a Balanced Lifestyle: “e.g. Regular eating pattern, good daily routine, a balance in work, rest & play”
-Open & Honest Talk.
-The actions used to work against the worsening of a Relapse and/or re-establish sobriety: “e.g. relapse groups, 1-1’s, post-relapse groups(Aftercare)”.
-Accept Relapse as a part of Recovery – A Learning Experience/ NOT a Failure!!: “e.g. If you learn from it & get through it, it will strengthen your self-efficacy”.
RELAPSE CAN HAPPEN AT ANYTIME
-Relapse is part of recovery and most people in recovery will or have had a relapse at least once.
-Although traditionally talking about relapse is frowned upon, it is NOT Taboo.
-It is a part of the recovery process & needs to be talked about without the fear of it happening again by doing so.
TURN RELAPSE INTO PRO-LAPSE
-Do NOT beat yourself up or Give up.
-Talk about the risks to you of a possible lapse, when you are craving or thinking about a future lapse, with family, AA, support groups e.t.c.
-If at first, you don’t succeed, Try & Try Again.
-Learn from your mistakes & turn your relapse into a Pro-lapse.
-Every Lapse & Relapse begins with a choice (Thought).
-That choice may be conscious or subconscious.
-Decisions we make NOW, affect what we do next.
-Relapse is a process, Examine It!
-Focus NOT on the cause & effect, but the reason for continuing.
-Every Lapse results in a negative emotional response: (Guilt, Shame e.t.c)
-You can turn it Positive: “I Need To Stop NOW and get Support”
-Or it can stay Negative: “I was stupid to even THINK I could stop in the first place” “This proves that I am useless & can’t do anything right, so I might as well continue…”
-Advance preparation can turn a lapse into a Prolapse.
-By being prepared for the possibility of a lapse and have a “plan of action” as what to do if it happens.
-Although no one consciously wants to relapse, being prepared for the possibility is better than not: “e.g. Fire Drills”
-Thoughts, feelings, behaviors, physical sensations & situations, are ALL linked.
-We all have control over our thoughts, thus our awareness.
-If you find you are feeling bad/ sad – Think Happy, Let Go of the bad feeling.
-If you’re aware that you have slipped into old behaviors – Change Them.
-If you have a physical craving- Remind yourself that it will pass.
-If you are in a dangerous situation- Move or get away.
-Sitting on the fence.
-Every day we are ambivalent on many decisions we make.
-This includes our Addiction and ongoing recovery.
-It’s very important to: “play the tape until the end”.
-Write up both Pros & Cons of both lapsing or not, NOW & in the future.
My Next Blog is Self Esteem
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