lack of ability, influence, or power.
“the feeling of powerlessness due to poverty”
Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:
Step One of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous states: “We were powerless over alcohol– that our lives had become unmanageable”
Anyone who is or has suffered from active addiction can identify with the term POWERLESSNESS. We all were trapped by our addiction, both intoxicated and not, as it preoccupied all our thoughts, feelings and time. We had little time for anything or anyone else. Our lives had become unmanageable.
In recovery we do get back choice and with this choice comes the ability to make decisions and take responsibility. This, for me, was the biggest gift I could get, as I was trapped by my addiction. Being FREE from the terrible bonds of addiction was the most liberating experience of my life and I was going to take full advantage of this new found freedom. 15 years on, I’m still full of gratitude for this freedom and would never do anything to jeopardize this. I have the life beyond my wildest dreams from 15 years ago, as what I have now I could not have even dreamt off back then. With that in mind and with the knowledge that I was given a gift, I do always strive to better myself as much as I can, for me and my family.
Now in my line of work, I do see people who try to “milk” powerlessness as much as they can, even in recovery. They use powerlessness as an excuse to do nothing for their recovery and remain in an almost state of apathy. They in a way are still preoccupied mentally with their addiction and remain in a state of poor me victim state. Either they are struggling, and if that is the case then help is there in the recovery movement, others, however, choose to remain powerless, as this state of helplessness is their comfort zone. Why change, when you are being enabled!!
At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself, what kind of quality of life do you want? Do you want to be free to choose your own life, or do you want to remain a victim of your now, own circumstances and live in misery?
Now that you are not physically gripped by the POWER of alcohol & drugs, and have survived, the Choice is yours.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life-changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want to change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7-day video series to watch.