Beware of Internet Addiction Disorder

Can You become addicted to the internet?

I know it seems quite ironic that I’m posting a blog about internet addiction (A) on the internet, (B) that I am an On-line Affiliate Marketer and (C) I did my research on-line also. But I feel that it is a very important subject that could, if unchecked, become an epidemic in our society.

I am an alcoholic in recovery and also an addiction counsellor, specializing in alcohol, drugs & gambling, and I know that people, like myself, who suffer from or have suffered from an addiction are very prone to cross addicting (switching from one substance or behaviour to another), so why not the internet. Besides people in recovery, anyone can become addicted or develop a compulsive behaviour, if you do something for long enough, without having a balance.

How can I know that I’m even at risk?

I found that when I started to learn about affiliate marketing I was spending a lot of time on line watching training videos and being involved in webinars and also social media. Now this has to be done if you want to learn anything about internet marketing, it is and takes a lot of hard work, which is to be expected. 

However…..I found myself sitting up till all hours in the morning and then finding it hard to go to sleep, as my mind was still racing and not processing the info I had been taking in. Now as an addiction counsellor the alarm bells began ringing for me as I found that my on line time began eating into my work time, my family time and sleep time. I was becoming preoccupied with the internet. I was starting to feel run down, lethargic and great difficulty shutting down my laptop and not checking social media. 

What has this to do with addiction in general?

Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD) has not been classified as mental health disorder in the DSM 5, like other addictions, it is though a behavioral disorder, akin to gambling, sex and spending. Like any other addictive behaviour, it can take over and ultimately control your life, as you can become more and more preoccupied and unable to do without, even for a little while. You might eventually be able to turn off your laptop, but you cannot turn of your brain.

What are the causes of IAD?

People can easily become addicted to the internet through over use or abuse of the following platforms: –

Social Media,

Dating sites,

Online gaming including gambling,

Online shopping,

Pornography,

Information or web browsing.

All can become compulsive which can lead to eventual addictions in time.

Some people could have just one or multiple addictions on line. The main issue is that the internet, which is only a tool, can facilitate the addictive behaviour.

Besides, mental & emotional attachment, there are also physical problems that can occur or be exasperated by over use of the internet or even computer use in general. These are carpal tunnel, back problems, shoulder freezing, arthritis & rheumatism, lack of exercise and mobility, obesity, poor circulation, repertory & heart problems, hemorrhoids, muscle wastage, vitamin D deficiency from a lack of natural light, eyesight damage.

Behavioural problems like physical isolation, poor personal hygiene, poor diet, untidy, unkempt, smelly, anti social.

Take away the internet and will addictive behaviours still occur?, Probably, and in all cases the Internet is not to blame, but it does expose people more easily to their behaviour of choice. An example, if you look at pornography on line, you most likely looked at pornography before the internet came along. The same concept applies for gambling, shopping, spending, dating.

What can I do now?

I am not talking about treatment of Internet Addiction at this stage, mainly just awareness of it and what to look out for to prevent yourself and loved ones from the possibility of progressing a routine to habit to compulsion to addiction.

So How can you prevent yourself from falling prey to becoming addicted?

Self awareness is key & be totally honest with yourself, if you find it a struggle to walk away from your computer or device, that is a good indicator that things could become unmanageable for you. Plan your time on the internet, limit use, take regular breaks and do something in that break time, get something to eat, go for a walk, sleep, goto work, meditate.

Children & the internet

I’m sure I don’t have to say much here as it is well publisized just how dangerous the internet can be for children. It is every adults responsibility to make sure that their kids are viewing appropriate material and never ever leave them unsupervised on line. Educate them on the risks, so that they  know to let you know if there is a problem. Kids now days are a lot more tech savvy than previous generations, so you have to be vigilant. 

I’m an adult, so is it really that much of a risk?

In general, no, but if you take pornography for example. Since the creation of the internet the availability of pornographic material has quadrupled and its availability is across the board, sex crimes are also on the increase. On line gaming and gambling is a multibillion dollar industry, but on the downside, many people who are compulsive gamblers or gamers have become destitute due to it. At the end of the day as the saying goes “guns don’t kill people, people kill people”, the same concept applies with the internet. its a great tool but you have to…..

Just be Responsible

I don’t intend to be the prophet of doom, as the internet truly is a marvelous invention and if used responsibly by everyone can and has improved everyone’s quality of life. Just look how easy it is to book a vacation now, compared to even a few decades ago. You can literally do anything on it now, even earn a living…….

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Many companies are offering on line marketing training but the company I chose was SFM, as they offer state of the art training with amazing on-line mentorship & peer support and you can earn as you learn as an affiliate. It is a great platform to start off on your internet journey/ career.
I have taken this step into the internet abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, Stuart & Jay, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.

Thanks for reading, and hope to see you on the other side.

Ref:

Crediblog,February 3, 2018, What is Internet Addiction Disorder ?,<https://www.credihealth.com/blog/internet-addiction-disorder>

Mental Health America, n.d, Risky Business: Internet Addiction,<http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/risky-business-internet-addiction>

Verywell Mind, February 05, 2018, An Overview of Internet Addiction,<https://www.verywellmind.com/internet-addiction-4157289>

Express, UPDATED: 12:32, Tue, Sep 6, 2016, BEWARE INTERNET ADDICTION: Expert warns web craving is as bad as drug addiction,<https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/health/707650/internet-addiction-phone-problem-similar-drug-alcohol>

X Addiction in Recovery

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Cross Addiction-In-Recovery

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When you switch from one addcition to another addiction, bei it a chemical or behaviour.

Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blogy, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:

Cross Addiction-in-Recovery

What is cross-addiction ?

“The Transfer from One Addictive Substance or Behaviour to Another”.
In Early Recovery, this can be due to being Un Aware of the Possible Dangers.

Why do we cross-addict ?

“Nature abhors a vacuum”
Boredom
Restlessness
Perfectionism
Racing ahead of ourselves, not keeping it in the day

I used to take it or leave it, before, so why not now ?

New Enslaver or Master.
Return to Drug of Choice.
Multiple Addictions.
Examples:
Alcohol for Cocaine, Valium for Marijuana, Codeine for Alcohol.

If I use another substance, is it a relapse?

“Most Definitely”.

Claiming Ignorance Can Not be Used as an Excuse.
Addiction will Justify, Rationalize, Minimize and Deny any Responsibility.

Why would I take it ?

Habit.
To Relax.
To De-Stress.
For Depression.
Euphoric recall.
Addiction – Cunning, Baffling and Powerful.
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Cross Addiction

Can Cross-addiction,Be like Denial ?

“I can’t Live Without Some Chemicals in My Life”.
“I know I can’t Drink, but a Little Marijuana Won’t Hurt”.
“Heroin wasn’t Legal but Codeine is Legal and Not as Dangerous”.
“G.P. Scripts are Okay, as they Can‘t be Wrong, sure they are Doctors”.

How Does Cross- Addiction Work?

Filling Old Habits & Routines.
Satisfying The “Feel Good Factor”.
To Avoid Psychological Discomfort .
To Avoid Reality.
To Mask Emotional Pain.

What are Addictive Behaviours ?

“Normal Behaviours done to Excess that Become Compulsive and Obsessive, and can become Harmful”
Temporarily Filling the Void.
Replacing Artificial Highs with Natural Highs.
OCD

Compulsive  Behaviours

Sex. 
Spending/ Shopping.
Gambling (Not Pathological Gambling Disorder).
Exercise.
Eating (Not Eating Disorders).
Work.
Thrill Seeking.

How can I avoid cross-addicting ?

Avoid Dangerous People, Places and Situations
Awareness.
A Quest for Wholeness & Balance.
Higher Power.
Search for a Meaning and Purpose in Your Life.
AA, GA, NA, and any other Fellowship.

Summary

Using other chemicals is a relapse and is very dangerous as it will lead back to your drug of choice or multiple addictions.
Addictive behaviours are more common place in early recovery and would not be considered a relapse but a balance must be sought so as not to become dependant or obsessive.
Use your common sense as its not rocket science.

This is my last article in “Recovery in Addiction” Series. I hope you enjoyed these blogs and that you got value from them. I would Love to hear some feed back from you and even any input you might have on recovery. Thank you very much for your following. 

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.

Spirituality in Recovery

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spirituality

spɪrɪtʃʊˈalɪti,spɪrɪtjʊˈalɪti/
noun
 
the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things. “the shift in priorities allows us to embrace our spirituality in a more profound way”

Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blogy, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:S

“Spirituality-in-Recovery”

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Spirituality is wide open to each individuals own interpretation. There is no wrong way and no one belief is the same for everyone.

If you are stuck with the whole concept or subject of spirituality then my advice to you is to “be open to everything and attached to nothing”

INTRODUCTION

•WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY
•WHAT IS IT NOT
•DO WE NEED SPIRITUALITY IN OUR RECOVERY
•HOW DO WE FIND SPIRITUALITY
•SUMMARY

WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY

•SELF ACCEPTANCE OF OUR OWN:
  IMPERFECTIONS.

  BROKENNESS.

  ADDICTION(S).

  POWERLESSNESS.

•HUMILITY.(Being part of everything)
•BELIEF.
•FAITH.
•LETTING GO.
•HIGHER POWER.
•OUR OWN SOUL/ CONSCIENCE.
•THE GROUP, AA.

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WHAT IT IS NOT

•OLD BEHAVIOURS & ATITUDES.
•OBSESSIONS.
•NOT LETTING GO.
•PERFECTIONISM.
•SELF DISHONESTY.
•FEAR.
•RESENTMENTS.
•CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR.
•COMPARISONS.
•EGO.

DO WE NEED SPIRITUALITY IN
  OUR RECOVERY

•IN ADDICTION WE HAD BECOME DETACHED FROM OURSELVES, OTHER PEOPLE & LIFE ITSELF.
•WE NEED TO ACCEPT OURSELVES FOR WHO WE ARE, NOT WHAT WE ARE NOT.

•WE NEED TO LEARN TO ACCEPT LIFE ON LIFE’S TERMS, APPRECIATING BOTH THE GOOD & BAD EXPERIENCES IN LIFE.
•ACCEPTING A SPIRITUAL OUT LOOK WILL ENABLE YOU TO SEE THE BEAUTY OF LIFE AND ALL IT HAS TO HOLD FOR US.
•WE NEED TO RECONNECT WITH OUR HIGHER SELF.

HOW DO WE FIND SPIRITUALITY

•PRAYER & MEDITATION.
•ACCEPTING GOD HAS BEEN AND ALWAYS WILL BE WITH YOU.
•LET GO OF NEGATIVITY.
•OPEN YOUR HEART AND MIND TO SELF ACCEPTANCE.
•UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
•TELLING OUR STORY – EXPERIENCE, STRENGTH & HOPE.
POSITIVE THINKING & ATTITUDE

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Spirituality

SUMMARY

•SPIRITUALITY IS THE ESSENCE OF AA AND THE ESSENCE OF LIFE.
•OPEN YOUR MIND AND HEART AND LET GO OF RESISTANCE (EGO) AND SPIRITUALITY WILL FIND YOU.
•AS YOU AWAKEN SPIRITUALY YOUR INNER PEACE WILL INCREASE AND YOU WILL FEEL HAPPIER.

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want to change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7-day video series to watch.

“Shame in Recovery”

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shame

ʃeɪm/
noun
 
1.
a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behaviour.
“she was hot with shame”
synonyms:
humiliation, mortification, chagrin, ignominy, loss of face, shamefacedness, embarrassment, indignity, abashment, discomfort, discomfiture, discomposure 

Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog from 10th May, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:

“Shame in Recovery”

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Shame in early recovery can be extremely paralyzing as suddenly without the cover of your drug of choice or alcohol you are raw. People feel humiliated having to acknowledge or admit that are alcoholic, they don’t want to be seen at AA meetings or have anything to do with other people in recovery. AA covers this by promoting anonymity & confidentiality. This is to protect people and also make it more attractive for people to join.

Shame though is just a form of pride, and you’ve heard the saying: “Pride Go Before A Fall”, thus to maintain your recovery you have to process and let go of your shame.

An example of the insanity of shame in recovery is people who are mortified for anyone to know they are in recovery, but though nothing about falling about the place in a drunken stupor, for all to see. 

Shame and addiction

Shame is deep rooted, and not always our fault, unlike Guilt, which takes an action from us.

Shame and Addiction go hand in hand.

Where one leads the other must follow.

Both exist behind the wall of Denial.

Not to be exposed

Shame hides behind Masks, just as addiction does.

Hidden by what it is not:
–  Rage.
–  Indifference.
–  Need to Control.
–  Depression.

Confusion.
–  Obsession.
–  Panic.
–  Flight.

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Without chemicals

We are very vulnerable in early recovery if we don’t begin to deal with our Shame.

Getting back to basics.

Facing our own Fears.

If we don’t deal with our Shame, we will  drink or use again.

Living Death

Irrational Beliefs that appear very real.

The Vicious Circle.

Self Rejection.

Acceptance.

Giving up Control.

Combating shame

Grow.

Get a sponsor.

Do a step one.

Continued therapy.

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Shame &  Spirituality

You cannot find a Spiritual awakening if you have shame.

Has God Forgotten Us.

Do we trust God.

Am I alone.

Be gentle with yourself.

Affirmations

*I am a Child of God and I deserve Love, Peace, Serenity and Prosperity.

*I am Loved, because I deserve Love.

*I forgive myself for hurting myself and others.

*I forgive myself for letting others hurt me.

*I forgive myself for accepting sex when I wanted love.

*I am willing to accept Love.

*I am not alone, I am one with God and the Universe.

*I am whole and good.

*I am innocent and totally deserving of love unconditionally.

*I am capable of changing.

*Just for Today, I will respect my own and others’ boundaries.

*Just for Today, I will be vulnerable with   someone I trust.

*Just for Today, I will take one compliment and hold it in my heart for more than just a fleeting moment. I will let someone nurture me.

*Just for Today, I will act in a way that I would admire in someone else.

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.

Self Esteem in Recovery

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self-esteem
ˌsɛlfɛˈstiːm/
noun
 
confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.
“assertiveness training for those with low self-esteem”
synonyms:
self-respect, self-regard, pride in oneself/one’s abilities, faith in oneself, pride, dignity, morale, self-confidence, confidence, self-assurance, assurance; amour propre
“assertiveness training for those with low self-esteem”

Self Esteem in Recovery

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LOW SELF-ESTEEM

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What is Self Esteem

We tend to go through life evaluating ourselves and others according to a scale of worth. The idea of self esteem is the amount of value that we consider we are worth. These values vary from person to person. Whilst we might rate ourselves as being of little value, others might rate us much higher. If we get into the habit of thinking negatively about ourselves, then low self esteem, or placing little value on ourselves, is the result. 
Low self esteem can be a result of negative life experiences, particularly when we’re young and most vulnerable. These experiences may include being criticised or judged negatively, such as from a parent or school bullies. As adults, abusive relationships and very stressful life events can also cause low self esteem.
Low Self Esteem is one of the biggest consequences of addiction, & one of the biggest challenges in recovery.
Low self esteem can stay low, because of our own self-critical thoughts, which can be triggered by criticism, or perceived criticism (even if none is intended, we believe we are being criticised).

How Low Self Esteem affects us

Emotions
-depressed
-hurt
-angry
-frustrated
-anxious
-ashamed
-guilty….
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Thoughts
-Negative, self-critical: I’m so stupid, I’m worthless, It’s my fault, I’m a failure, I’m not good enough, I’m incompetent. 
-Unhelpful Thinking Habits (www.getselfhelp.co.uk/unhelpful.htm) might include Mental Filter, Mind Reading, Self Blame, Internal Critic, Compare & Despair, Shoulds and Musts, Black and
White Thinking
Behaviours
-try to please others
-get defensive when we believe we’re being criticised
-under-achieve or work harder to compensate and cover up our incompetence
-shy and passive around others
-avoid situations and people
-neglect or abuse ourselves

Making Changes

Doing things differently
Communicate with others assertively (www.getselfhelp.co.uk/ccount/click.php?id=36)
Set achievable and realistic goals. When you achieve them, congratulate and treat yourself, and allow others to congratulate you
Accept compliments – say thank you, and smile , do more things you enjoy doing
Stand, walk and talk confidently
Change your image – hair, clothes, make-up
Take up a new hobby or interest
Learn a new skill
Reward yourself for achievements and successes – however small
Thank others – show your appreciation, and others will appreciate you
Do things for others – help someone out. It makes us feel better about ourselves
If you can do something well, let others notice – when they notice your work, their opinion of you will be raised, which in turn, raises your own self esteem

Thinking differently

STOPP! Pause, take a breath (www.getselfhelp.co.uk/stopp.htm)
Ask yourself:
What am I reacting to?
What have I been thinking about here?
Is this fact or opinion?
Is that “Internal Critic” operating again?
Am I looking at things through those gloomy specs (“Mental Filter”) again?

Think Positively

We have learned over time to think, feel & behave in a negative manner.
That is only a learned behaviour
Challenge your negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones, and you will be amazed at how quickly you will begin to feel better.
Always take responsibility for yourself and never put blame on anyone else. Remember they are also on their journey and you can never know what they are thinking

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.

Relapse Prevention

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Relapse prevention (RP) is a cognitive-behavioral approach to relapse with the goal of identifying and preventing high-risk situations such as substance abuse, obsessive-compulsive behavior, sexual offending, obesity, and depression.[1] It is an important component in the treatment process for alcoholism or alcohol dependence.[2][3](Wikipedia)

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:

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Relapse Prevention

LOOK AT WHAT IS RELAPSE & RELAPSE PREVENTION
-Lapse
-Prolapse
-Relapse
-Relapse Prevention
-Relapse Management

LAPSE

-A Brief Slip
-Backslide in Motivation – “loss of interest in recovery, disheartened, complacent”
-One Off Situation, Initially
-Happens at a Subconscious Level on many occasions & is NOT premeditated or planned.

RELAPSE

-A Reinstatement of former unhealthy behaviors: “e.g. Staying in bed all day, poor self-care, isolation”
-A collapse in motivation: “e.g. Not wanting to attend aftercare or meetings”
-Return to active addiction: “e.g. drinking, using or gambling again”
-A Premeditated Process: e.g.” Once the negative signs are noticed and action is taken, a relapse
can be stopped”

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Relapse Prevention

 

 

RELAPSE PREVENTION

-A Therapeutic Process for interrupting the Behaviours, Beliefs & Negative Self Talk, that lead to a resumption of prior negative patterns.
-Daily maintenance of a Balanced Lifestyle: “e.g. Regular eating pattern, good daily routine, a balance in work, rest & play”
-Open & Honest Talk.

RELAPSE MANAGEMENT

-The actions used to work against the worsening of a Relapse and/or re-establish sobriety: “e.g. relapse groups, 1-1’s, post-relapse groups(Aftercare)”.
-Accept Relapse as a part of Recovery – A Learning Experience/ NOT a Failure!!: “e.g. If you learn from it & get through it, it will strengthen your self-efficacy”.

RELAPSE CAN HAPPEN AT ANYTIME

-Relapse is part of recovery and most people in recovery will or have had a relapse at least once.
-Although traditionally talking about relapse is frowned upon, it is NOT Taboo.
-It is a part of the recovery process & needs to be talked about without the fear of it happening again by doing so.

 

TURN RELAPSE INTO PRO-LAPSE

-Do NOT beat yourself up or Give up.
-Talk about the risks to you of a possible lapse, when you are craving or thinking about a future lapse, with family, AA, support groups e.t.c.
-If at first, you don’t succeed, Try & Try Again.
-Learn from your mistakes & turn your relapse into a Pro-lapse.

Keep Calm
Keep calm & never give up

AWARENESS

-Every Lapse & Relapse begins with a choice (Thought).
-That choice may be conscious or subconscious.
-Decisions we make NOW, affect what we do next.
-Relapse is a process, Examine It!
-Focus NOT on the cause & effect, but the reason for continuing.
-Every Lapse results in a negative emotional response: (Guilt, Shame e.t.c)
-You can turn it Positive: “I Need To Stop NOW and get Support”
-Or it can stay Negative: “I was stupid to even THINK I could stop in the first place” “This proves that I am useless & can’t do anything right, so I might as well continue…”

 

REFRAMING

-Advance preparation can turn a lapse into a Prolapse.
-By being prepared for the possibility of a lapse and have a “plan of action” as what to do if it happens.
-Although no one consciously wants to relapse, being prepared for the possibility is better than not: “e.g. Fire Drills”

CBT MODEL

-Thoughts, feelings, behaviors, physical sensations & situations, are ALL linked.
-We all have control over our thoughts, thus our awareness.
-If you find you are feeling bad/ sad – Think Happy, Let Go of the bad feeling.
-If you’re aware that you have slipped into old behaviors – Change Them.
-If you have a physical craving- Remind yourself that it will pass.
-If you are in a dangerous situation- Move or get away.

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Ambivalence

AMBIVALENCE

-Sitting on the fence.
-Every day we are ambivalent on many decisions we make.
-This includes our Addiction and ongoing recovery.
-It’s very important to: “play the tape until the end”.
-Write up both Pros & Cons of both lapsing or not, NOW & in the future.

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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life-changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.

I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want to change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7-day video series to watch.

 

“Recovery in Aftercare”

 

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Addiction dictionary definition

aftercare
ˈɑːftəkɛː/
noun

1.care of a patient after a stay in hospital or of a person on release from prison.
2.support or advice offered to a customer following the purchase of a product or service.

Hi, it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:

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