a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way.
“escape can be a strong motivation for travel”
motive, motivating force, incentive, stimulus, stimulation, inspiration, impulse, inducement, incitement, spur, goad, provocation;
Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series“, If not read on:
“Motivation in Recovery”-The 6 Stages of Change
Recovery takes motivation, there is no other way. When you live in a very needy state, having to become responsible for yourself and your actions can feel alien. However, when results are seen from the desire to stay sober, motivation does increase.
What is meant by motivation in recovery?
How can I tell if I’m self or externally Motivated?
How can I motivate myself?
Do I want to?
What is Motivation in Recovery
“Motivation in Recovery”-The 6 Stages of Change
- Pre Contemplation – giving it no thought at all, either still actively using or drinking again with no notion of stopping. – “No Motivation”
- Contemplation – Crisis builds due to negative emotions or consequences, begins to think about stopping again. – “External Motivation”
- Determination – Makes a decision to do something about the relapse and getting back into recovery, more willing to change – “External & Self Motivation”
- Action – Making the phone call to get help, attend fellowship meetings again, attending relapse group, change behaviors & attitude – “External & Self Motivation”
- Maintenance – Continuing with a balanced lifestyle, attending meetings other self-care/ help. Normalized relationships with self and family/ friends. Living each day as it comes and being self aware.- “Self Motivation”
- Relapse – Self-neglect & sabotage, stopping meetings, old behavior, and attitude returning, not asking for help, drinking & using again. – “External Motivation”
Am I Self or Externally Motivated
- Honestly ask yourself this question & dig deep.
- Meditate on it if you need too.
- Ask advice if you are still unsure.
- It is very important to accept where you are at.
How can I Motivate myself
- If you are “externally motivated” you are still motivated and part of you does want to maintain your recovery.
- Look at your recovery so far and list not what you feel you have not achieved or failed at, but what you have achieved. Ask others opinions – you will be amazed at your own progress.
- How do you feel?
Do I Want to
- At the end of the day, that choice can only be yours, if you want contented sobriety & recovery. Weigh up the pro’s & con’s and decide wisely “Self Motivation”
- If you are staying sober in spite, to please others that’s “External Motivation”
- Recovery is a cycle, which we get on and off on a daily basis.
- Its okay to fail, as long as we can get up again.
- Always accept and be where you are at, at least then you know you are doing it for yourself.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me, but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through on line marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7 day video series to watch.