a feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen.
“he looked through her belongings in the hope of coming across some information”
aspiration, desire, wish, expectation, ambition, aim, plan, dream, daydream, pipe dream; More
want something to happen or be the case.
“he’s hoping for an offer of compensation”
expect, anticipate, look for, wait for, be hopeful of, pin one’s hopes on,
Hi it’s Dermot again. If you read my last blog, you will know that this is a follow up to that blog and part of a “Recovery from Addiction Series”, If not read on:
When I was drinking, I always had hope, even if it was just a glimmer, that my life would get better. I still hadn’t admitted that alcohol was the cause of my problems, but did know that my life wasn’t working and I begged for it to change.
This hope has always been with me or, I with it. Hope got me out of situations and helped me deal with life’s challenges. “When the shit hits the fan, I get on my knees and pray” The challenge does pass and I survive, and I put this down to hope.
Wayne Dyer quotes: “You will see it when you believe it”. This is so true for me as no matter how bad things got, they never got worse, and slowly improved. Had I not had hope when I was drinking, I probably would not have survived.
Everyone who genuinely gets into recovery does so due to hope, that things will improve for them.
When the pain becomes overwhelming and you are at rock bottom, the only way is up.
Most people get abstinent due to this pain, but a hope of a brighter future is what keeps them in recovery.
When anyone is at a low point, they are more open to being hopeful that things will improve for them. They don’t know how, it is just a knowing that if they are willing to change, life will improve. In many cases going back is not an option.
“When you have that faith & hope and can keep it no matter how difficult things are, life does improve”.
Not everyone feels hope when they find themselves in early recovery and many could be suicidal and just feel Hopeless. Unfortunately, suicide is becoming an all too common tragedy as people in addiction feel hopeless and trapped and can see no way out. Truth be told, many people who complete suicide, do so under the influence of alcohol or other drugs.
How can you turn hopelessness into hope? In the treatment center where I work a lot of people are admitted due to external consequences and although are physically sober, are not emotionally or psychologically sober yet.
They still see their “crutch” alcohol or drug as their comfort or pain reliever. Miraculously during the treatment process, people find hope through identification with and support from their peers. People start to see a light at the end of their tunnel.
Another person’s story carries immense power.
That is why we listen to, watch & read motivational people and subjects -They instill hope.
That’s why attendance at AA and other fellowship groups is so important in recovery – They instill hope.
That’s why believing that there is Love and goodness in the World and besides all our faults, everyone on Earth wants to feel good – That instills hope.
If you can come to believe that you have a meaning and a purpose in life. Maybe even your life in active addiction was what was meant to be, and that you can grow from this, then that is HOPE.
Hope helped me to accept that I am an alcoholic and that alcohol was the problem. That acceptance was incredibly liberating for me, as for the first time in my life, I knew exactly what was wrong with me and why my life had turned out the way it did. From then on I knew I was free and was hopeful to now shape my own destiny.
My next blog is on Letting Go
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life-changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
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