VERB (USED WITH OBJECT) [CHANGED, CHANG·ING.]
1 .to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: to change one’s name; to change one’s opinion; to change the course of history.
2. to transform or convert (usually followed by into): The witch changed the prince into a toad.
3. to substitute another or others for; exchange for something else, usually of the same kind: She changed her shoes when she got home from the office.
4. to give and take reciprocally; interchange: to change places with someone.
5. to transfer from one (conveyance) to another: You’ll have to change planes in Chicago.
Change in recovery is no different from any other types of changes in life. As humans we are growth seeking being, thus we are in a permanent state of change, even if we are unaware of it. Our bodies are changing daily, our minds are changing all the time, our moods change in line with our thoughts and feelings. We are ever evolving & never stand still, nor does life, nor does the Universe.
To resist change is to resist life. Do you want to stay stuck where you are on the hamster wheel or do you want to move forward in life, in whatever you are doing? I know what I want.
One problem people in recovery face is fear of change. That is more due to the fear of reality and uncertainty. The anxiety of how will we cope in life without our “crutch” of alcohol, drugs etcetera. Yes for many it is a fearful concept.
I got sober at 33 years old and when I get sober all I had to my name were the clothes on my back. The future was a very daunting prospect, especially when I had nothing. How do you see a future, without a present and a very dark past? It wasn’t easy but, I had to make and more so accept a lot of changes in my life. I always remember the part of the Serenity Prayer “Accept the things I can not change & courage to change the things I can” This, and with the help of many many lovely people inspired me to carry on. Thank God that is history now and I have not only survived, but thrived.
Strangely enough most of the life-changing decisions I’ve made since I came into recovery have been relatively stress & worry free. Getting married, Becoming Elite with SFM to do online marketing.
The great thing about change, and as it states in the serenity prayer and the Law Of Attraction, if you make the decision to change, the HOW is not important, so long as you remain consistent and committed to change. One day at a time.
My next article is on Chemical Dependency, stay tuned.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life-changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want to learn what I am learning and are in a point in your life where you want to change, then I offer you, through my mentors, a no obligation FREE 7-day video series to watch.