1. The act of taking or receiving something offered.
2. Favorable reception; approval; favor.
3. The act of assenting or believing: acceptance of a theory.
4. The fact or state of being accepted or acceptable.
Acceptance in recovery is a process and rarely does it happen instantly. In early recovery, we have to first come to terms with admitting the problem and everything that needs to be changed as a result of that admission.
All change is hard as it takes us out of our comfort zone, even if the comfort zone was very uncomfortable. We are creatures of habit. Every one is an individual, but it is a known fact that it takes up to 90 days to give yourself enough time, with your new routine to form a habit.
Results and action speak louder than words and it is only through each persons’ own experience, can they see these changes happen (hindsight), but also by keeping a daily progress diary and daily goals to follow. I always say Energy + Time = Results.
As we progress in recovery and start to see positive changes, then we become less resistant & more willing to let go of old unhelpful attitudes and behaviors and more motivated to accept new ones. It’s a process.
With acceptance, the desire and preoccupation with drink & drugs lessen and are replaced with other thoughts, feelings & behaviors. My example was being totally absorbed mentally with alcohol, from the moment I awoke to the time I eventually passed out. The thought of drinking, even before I started drinking was prominent in my mind. I had little mental time for anything else. As I progressed in recovery my mindset changed and my thoughts changed to other things. It is very rare that I think of a drink these days, and if I do, there is absolutely no emotional attachment or craving for it.
Acceptance and letting go, are congruent and work hand in hand, complimenting each other. As recovery is a process and a journey, everyone’s own experience on this journey will be unique. What applies to us all is to be willing, despite how hard a day you might be having, to believe that YOU are and can change.
To sum up, acceptance is a process of change from admitting to becoming willing to allowing recovery to happen.
My next article is on Ambivalence, stay tuned.
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Recovery is about growth and everyone does grow at a different pace. My advice to anyone in early recovery is to wait at least 2 years before making any major life-changing decisions that might have emotional ramifications. An example: get a mortgage, get married, change career, emigrate. In light of this everyone has dreams and we all do want to better our lives in one way or another, so it is important in early recovery to start to put those dreams into reality by creating achievable goals which can be reached in time. I found in my early recovery, although I had dreams, I wasn’t aware of creating goals and my life unfolded by default. It turned out well for me but had I had clear goals, I do feel that it would have been even better.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason. I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind). The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing. I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of SFM, I am working my way through it. The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum. If you want more information you can go directly to my business page: Realize Your Recovery Dreams, to learn what I am learning or you can go straight to the link below and let my mentors introduce you through a FREE 7-day video series.